Unless you are new to my account, you should know the person in this collage is me. Obviously some features of me that stand out is my brown skin and curvy body. I remember somewhere three years ago back when I was in grade six, a boy was being a jerk to my friend so I stood up for her. In turn he told me "fûçk off, you fat Indian". I was and still am emotionally strong and so comments like that from idiots like him never got to me and instead of getting hurt I laughed and told him to get my nationality correct before deciding to be racist. When I think about that comment now I realise how blind that boy was and how much deeper meaning that insult was. He called me a "fat Indian" in an attempt to offend me, this subtly applies that he perceives being fat and being Indian or a darker skinned person as something to be ashamed of.

First of all I want to clear up, not all brown skinned people are from India, they can come from all different countries in Asia like Sri Lanka, Afghanistan, Bangladesh, Nepal and Pakistan (just to name a few). If you were wondering, I have a Sinhalese Sri Lankan background. I don't think it's ok at all to generalise someone because of skin tone that they'd be for a certain country because no country is the same and it doesn't give the nation a person is from the proper significance it deserves. It's the same for oriental Asians, not all of them are from China, and the culture and language can be significantly different from Japan, Korea or Vietnam. It's like saying all white people are from America which is the same as Australia, England, Sweden etc.

Also just because someone has a different background to you does not make them inferior to you in any way. Using their foreign background as an insult against them is completely wrong and only shows that you are close minded and really don't have anything better to say. Each different nationality is unique and special in their own way and we humans must embrace the fact that we can have so many different heritages and traditions in one species rather than use it as a reason to go against each other.

Also calling someone "fat" as an insult is absolutely not acceptable. It's sad how people's minds are programmed to believe the word fat is a synonym for ugly. Body shaming has torn down so many people's lives and the unrealistic slim body standard has only divided humans. Everyone is different and their bodies come in all shapes and sizes. Some people have a naturally bigger build and no matter how healthy their lifestyle is, they will still be broad. But there's no problem to that, the standards are the problem. Instead of encouraging to be skinny, we must encourage being healthy. Being healthy doesn't mean skinny, some people with severe eating disorders like anorexia may become so skinny that even though magazines and fashion industries may love, will be terrible for their overall happiness and health.

I was always insecure and conscious of my weight and how fat I am from when I was even a little girl and it was probably the part of me that I hate the most. Whenever I wore short clothes I always felt scared of how people would judge me and think of me as fat. If I am to completely honest, I still often do feel that way about myself but when I do, I remember how being fat doesn't equal being ugly. Someone being curvy does not make them any more or less beautiful that someone who is not. I am often reminded by my family that I am chubby. Sometimes when we meet up with family friends they either say I've gotten skinnier like it's a good thing or that I've become fatter like it's a bad thing. Going back to having darker skin, I've heard about lots of darker skinned girls trying to wear whitening cream and finding ways to lighten their skin as if having darker skin is a bad thing. We need to change this, we need to get rid of these standards and perceptions of beauty. Features of ones physical appearance like weight and skin tone shouldn't be stereotyped and be divided into types that should be praised for and others that should be ashamed for.

thank you so much if you read up to this point I'd appreciate comments and criticism ☺️💗💗

you're such a queen?? like,I love all these stuff you write about feminism,or body shaming etc || there should be more persons like you tbh ++ yOURE A CUTE HUMAN INSIDE AND OUT

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awww I define knew a guy like that and as a member of the curvy body convention I love u for the amazing points u bring up❤️❤️❤️😱👏👏

all of that is so true. thank you for being awesome and totally smashing standards stupid society has set. you are so smart and kind and just amazing in general! again, ur awesome!

wow, what you wrote is so, so correct! society is so messed up and I see people 'insulting' other people everything single day for things that aren't even bad. Personally, as a very insecure girl, these ridiculous beauty standards upset and stress me out all the time. Sometimes we need someone like you to reassure us that beauty isn't what society tells us it is... there are so many types of beautiful!

All is so true Tharu! There is a boy like that in my school and he tell a lot of girls in my class that they are fat and ugly and they always tell him to stop and he doesn't care. A lot of people think that having a curvy body it's a bad thing and I think they are wrong, every girl is different and we have to be proud of being different, I always told girls that and I always told them that they are beautiful just the way they are💗 Tharu you are just a beautiful girl and a beautiful person and I agree with you on every single word💘

thank you💗

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and i totally agree! there's absolutely no need to make fun of someone because of their race or color. their skin is like yours, they just have different amounts of melanin. and body doesn't really mean a thing. i remember my friends saying that they were 70-80 pounds while i was already i little past 100. they seemed surprised, so i took it that they thought i was "fat". i resorted to jackets the rest of the year and nearly all of the next year until my jacket was lost. after not wearing my jacket, i felt more confidence. i realized my friends reactions didn't mean anything. i had gone to the doctor and she said i was fine. she said i should maintain my weight. and i 100% agree, we should focus on health and wellness, not having our bodies look like stick figures

that was my favorite jacket tho 😭 i'm joking 😂

sure😊 what kind of collage did u have in mind?

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so true 💕

sure but I do not have many pictures of Kaldur so if just Wally and D ick is ok?😊👍

beautiful!!! 😍😍😍