so the thing about this is you need to ask yourself if you really want to tell them. if you know you won’t be able to date them cause they’re gay, then would telling them hurt or harm your friendship in any way. would it make things awkward? if the answer if yes, I probably wouldn’t tell them because I would want to keep our friendship as close as it is. however, if your friend is an understanding bestie, that s/he won’t care. you’ll work it out together. and by telling ur crush, I’d just say it clearly. and NOT over the phone. it should be a face to face convo. I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck😊😊😊