so, bruinen said you wanted to meet me? im assuming it has to do with your kids?

i’m the same way with my kids, so i get it completely (:

four, three girls and one boy

five, almost three, and my twins are a year and 4 months

yeah, they’re all similar in age aren’t they? but my babies are my world. and i think it was just by happenstance? i was looking for friends and so was he.

yeah. no need to apologize, i told him to do what was best for him and y’all’s kids. did it hurt? yes. but im not a selfish person. and i know what it’s like to not have a complete family. so.. yeah. again, it’s alright

grew up without my parents, like at all. plus, my ex who is the father of all my kids has maybe seen the oldest like.. 10 times and only saw the twins once before he disappeared so.. yeah.

i didn’t mean for it to come out that way, my apologies… i wasn’t saying that it isn’t good enough or anything to just have one parent. my kids are happy as can be and are getting raised well. but i also know the importance of both parents being present due to my line of work. nothing against you, and im sure you’re an amazing mother. again, my apologies.

i was simply sharing what my thought process was in the situation.

my point is that the opportunity came up for you two to be together again, and i didn’t want to get in the way of that. maybe that’s a better way to word it. i have no idea… but i didn’t mean to strike a nerve, i feel bad for seemingly doing that

im sorry..

i respect whatever decision you make regarding your kids.

hi, so.. it’s been brought to my attention that you think im sleeping with bruinen? i’m not. i slept with a guy i formed a fwb with on their account, bruinen helped me find him. his name is riley. bruinen didn’t do anything wrong in this situation, and quite frankly, neither did i. just thought i would clear that up and i don’t want you guys to have a strain or fight because of a misunderstanding on anyones part.

arabella, before you write everything off i want to know why you went searching for something like that…? if i was hurt and had a one-night kind of situation, why does it matter? i wasn’t speaking to bruinen at all during that time period and it doesn’t have anything to do with your kids. i understand you don’t want me speaking to you, but at the same time… being completely honest here you didn’t even give me a chance. i know the situation is fresh and i know i used the wrong word choice when trying to explain things to you earlier. and i apologize for that. so please, all i ask is that you explain to me what i did that got you so upset and why you feel there is no trust right now? i swear i’ll leave you be afterwards, but help me understand.

well, for what it’s worth, he didn’t have anything bad to say about you to me. which probably doesn’t matter because you don’t like me for what i deem as an unfair reason. you don’t have any genuine reason to dislike me. i’m sorry, but you don’t. and usually i let things slide by, but that’s not okay bella. i understand you want to keep your kids safe. i do. and i just want you to know that IF things happen with bruinen and i, i won’t ever try to “take your place” or anything. im not their mom, and i never will be. i have my own kids. i know that reservations are bound to be formed. and i wouldn’t want someone doing that with my children either. english isn’t my first language, so i just tried explaining things in the way best way i could. again, not that it matters and not that you care. but yes, i understand.

it wasn’t straight away, and this entire time i have asking him about boundaries with your kids. because i don’t want to cause any stress or harm to them. and i asked him that when we started being friends again. what boundaries are set because I don’t want to do anything you would be uncomfortable with. and thank you for giving me an actual explanation. i appreciate that. and again, i respect your decision and hope that at some point, you’ll at least grow to tolerate me.

Hey Bella, I know I’m probably one of the last people you want to hear from, but I know nothing of the situation going on just that something unfortunate occurred that lead to Tucker being with Ally and Bruinen and just wanted to say that I hope things get better for you soon & you’re in my prayers. Take care. I also understand if you don’t reply to this, so please don’t feel like you have to and I apologize if this is overstepping in any way.